Getting from Wanting to Having
Using language for leverage
The Reemerging Masculine Heart
Moving beyond old-school male domination and the Sensitive New Age Guy (SNAG)…
I thought a lot about Gladys’s comment, secretly hoping I could avoid dying from…
What helped is that I finally found a purpose for this sometimes-excruciating fe…
How to Reinvest in Your Love Fund
Recognize that the deficit often comes from an inability to receive.
The Joys of Decoupling
A weeklong retreat beyond words and even snuggling.
5 Questions to Heal a Relationship
“What do we do next?” is the last question to ask
Tuning In to Your Turn-Ons
Appreciating the sexual feelings in our everyday lives
If You Really Want to Be Heard, Shut Up…
…And recognize the real struggle with your partner is to hear
The Secret of Real Anger Management
Maybe it’s time to unleash what it really feels like to care.
Claiming Your Queen
In my practice, I’m witnessing a revitalized version of the Queen archetype reemerging
The Two Ingredients of a Real Love Potion
If your mind cringes or your belly flip-flops while you read this, you’re not alone.
Using a Love Triangle to Ease Tension
Learn how to recognize your Hero, Victim, and Villain.
The Disappointed and the Disappointment
How to break free from this perpetual drama
How to Travel in (Better) Time With Your Mate
The story of how you met reveals the future of your relationship.
Four Approaches to Desire
A clear answer—even the answer you want—is just a few words away
The Five Fingers of Touch
Understanding your partner’s desires for touch is a key to restoring intimacy
Space is not just a physical phenomenon, it is an atmosphere that includes nonjudgmental attention, mutual respect, and appreciation.
Building a New Relationship With My Feet
As a kid, my hands and feet were a source of quiet shame for me. I was born with…
The Path to Harmony for Couples
SCENE ONE: My partner and I are in the car on a road trip, having a glorious tim…