I used to have a best friend, and we would talk sometimes two or three times a day. We met up weekly for brunch and coffee dates. It was amazing to have that type of connection with someone, a true soul sister. But over time, our relationship changed.
When we made plans, she would cancel at the last minute, promising to call or text. Weeks turned into months, and I never heard from her. Eventually my trust and faith in her disappeared. I kept trying to figure out what had happened to cause such distance. Was it something I said or did?
We often worry and blame ourselves when things change in relationships. But this habit of thinking I was the problem had to end.
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I finally spoke up and told my friend how I was feeling. I told her that I missed the closeness we once had and that to maintain our friendship there had to be a two-way effort. I shared that I felt hurt when she continued to blow me off. This turned into an argument. She defended herself, saying she was busy and didn’t have the luxury of hanging out because of her daily demands and responsibilities.
It then occurred to me that I was making it all about me when, of course, her situation was about her. I realized that maybe our relationship had run its course. And then another idea hit me: all relationships are divine assignments.
Knowing When to Release a Relationship
Whether it is a romantic partner, a sibling, a friend, or even someone you have recently met, all of our relationships present grand opportunities for us to grow and learn more about our true selves.
Likewise, all relationships will change over time, and knowing if and when to move on can be a challenge. These tips can help you make the right choice moving forward:
- Ask yourself: “Will changing this relationship improve my inner peace?”
- Then, ask the universe for the inner strength and courage to change the form of the relationship if need be.
- And have the strength to change what you cannot accept.