Is It Okay to Grieve for a Pet?
A comforting prayer to use when releasing a pet from this life.
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“Join us for No Mow May?” the email beseeched me. I almost skipped right past it since my husband Sean is our family’s designated mower. But, because the email arrived from the founder of a local animal sanctuary, I clicked it open with curiosity. The email contained a short but sweet message:
“I’ve just learned about No Mow May, an important initiative that encourages homeowners and businesses to let their lawns grow throughout the month in order to provide essential food for our pollinator friends! We absolutely love this idea, will be implementing it at the sanctuary, and hope you will join us.”
I was inspired, but I wasn’t sure how the idea would go down with my family.
Having been raised in the suburbs in the 1960s and an avid golfer in his middle years, my husband has long been on a quest to cultivate the perfect lawn. Year after year he is foiled by the slate bed which underlies our yard and by intrepid crabgrass. Plus, he has to deal with me constantly advocating for dandelions and suggesting that perhaps tending our backyard might be easier if we just mentally reframed the whole space as a salad bar for deer and tiny critters.
For many people, lawn care can be a competitive sport. On the flip side, a lack of care for one’s yard can cause conflict with neighbors who have differing views about neighborhood aesthetics. Luckily, the email provided downloadable signs from the folks at Pollinator Pathway that we could print and display to explain our messy May lawn to any critical neighbors.
While many humans idealize lush, evenly colored green lawns that are soft for bare feet, those types of turf bring lots of risks and lost opportunities. Lawns can’t filter strong water flows from storms. And they don’t provide habitat for other creatures. Maintaining lawns also requires a lot of water and often leads to people using chemicals that can leech into water systems. Plus, lawnmowers contribute greenhouse gasses to the atmosphere. (The emissions from a typical lawnmower running for one hour are equivalent to an average gas-powered car traveling 500 miles!) Both mowers and gas-powered leaf blowers cause noise pollution, bothering neighbors and animals.
[Read: “The Extinction of Quiet.”]
The more I researched, the more problematic our yard became. Rewilding just small portions by mowing less of it could help create more homes for other animals. Planting bushes assists with carbon uptake. Expanding our flower beds with wildflowers might attract more bees and butterflies.
We decided to observe No Mow May, then adopt a lazier mowing schedule throughout the summer and a year-long organic lawn care strategy. The folks at Pollinator Pathway advised, “Studies have shown that lawns mowed every two weeks―or better yet, every three weeks―resulted in the presence of more bees and a wider variety of bee species.” These bees are crucial for maintaining biodiversity and vibrant ecosystems. A meta-analysis of North American and European data agreed that low-intensity lawn management makes good sense for bees, animals, and humans alike.
Learning more about how our local habitats can thrive is also an act of interspecies compassion. Check out these books for more tips on cultivating a lawn that’s perfect for both you and your more-than-human yard mates.
Want more wellness ideas for your yard? Explore 6 Sustainable Gardening Tips for Animal Lovers.
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