Why is it so hard to walk away from some situations? Maybe it’s time to call it quits.
My friend Thea, who is in her 70s, has been on her condo board for two years. She doesn’t particularly enjoy the meetings or the topics—oh-so-scintillating issues like who isn’t picking up their dog waste or where to put a new speed bump. But when I asked her if she was running for another term on the board, she looked confused and said of course she would run again. Huh.
Or take Glenn, a 45-year-old who long ago lost interest in his book club but keeps showing up every month. He says, “I’d feel bad if I stopped going.” Huh.
Why is it that quitting things can be so hard? Not quit- ting things such as smoking or alcohol—there are complex behavioral and chemical factors involved. I mean just walk- ing away from a group, activity, or job that no longer serves us. Some people seem to have no problem with swinging through an exit door, while other people will spend literally years tethered to a situation that they feel “meh” about, at best. What is behind this uneasiness?
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