Resolving and Releasing Emotional Pain
How can empathic people let loose the burden of other people's emotions?
When your body has disease, illness or painful conditions, suppressed (somatized) emotion can exacerbate symptoms and escalate deterioration or decline. In my last article, I shared a practice for identifying and acknowledging emotional energy to avoid suppressing it into the energy system of the physical body.
Validating and embracing emotions that you may have been taught are unacceptable or inappropriate for you, and taking ownership for clearing and releasing the energetic backlog empowers you to experience your life more wholly and holistically.
Your emotions offer context and meaning for your in-the-moment experience; allowing them to inform you minimizes the derailment or inhibition of your conscious awareness.
“Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don't lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier.” ―Sabaa Tahir, A Torch Against the Night
Have you ever had an experience where you overreacted, wondering in hindsight why you applied a scorched earth response to an annoyance or irritation? Repressed emotion often comes out sideways and out of context to experience.
“We bury things so deep we no longer remember there was anything to bury. Our bodies remember. Our neurotic states remember. But we don't.” ―Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?
What emotions do you suppress, not allow, bury deeply? Anger, rage, aggression? Sadness, grief, remorse? Whatever is not allowed is frequently somatized into the body.
There are thousands of chakras in the energy system for the physical body (Etheric body, plane or field). Instead of chakras flowing energy freely to the organs, systems, glands, muscles, tendons, joints, skin … emotional energy can somatize into the Etheric body, gumming up the works. Wherever there’s stress or distress in the physical body, there’s a causative distress in the Etheric energy system, some of which is likely repressed emotion.
“Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.” —Vironika Tugaleva
“Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated.” —Jill Bolte Taylor, My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey
Please consider that you can feel the feelings that are yours without experiencing everyone else’s. Really! If you’re like many on the spiritual, evolutionary path, you may be an extraordinarily sensitive person, in constant contact with other people’s emotions. You connect with others emotions by accessing and holding their emotional energy. That’s not a requirement, a mandate or a ‘condition.’ It’s not a description of your purpose on this spin of the incarnational wheel.
Rather, it’s likely an energetic condition you’ve acclimated to over the course of time. Often a response to trauma … violation or compromise of your safety and trust, your energetic self learned to scan and take on the emotional energy in your environment to inform your choices and behaviors.
You can minimize the amount of emotional energy you absorb from others as you cultivate emotional acuity, energetic self-containment, self-awareness, and self-responsibility.
Your Allowing & Letting Go Practice
Give yourself permission to invite awareness of repressed emotional energy in your field. You need not be awash, overwhelmed. Rather, you’re creating space for your emotions to inform conscious awareness.
Take a breath, take a moment
Tune in to your energy, your emotional awareness
What emotions need space, room, permission, acknowledgment?
Returning Emotional Energy to Others
Validate that while a percentage of this emotional energy is yours, some of it belongs to others and is not your responsibility to manage.
~ Imagine a flower in front of your energy field, 12 to 15 feet beyond your outstretched arms & fingertips.
~ Say hello to the emotional energy you are inviting, allowing, embracing.
~ Emotional energy resembles dust particles, iron filings; direct it out of your field, onto the flower in front of you.
~ Create a second flower to the right of the original flower.
~ With empowered and autonomous authority and awareness, direct the emotional energy that belongs to ‘others’ to take up residence on the second flower.
~ Direct the ‘others’ to reclaim their emotional energy from the second flower, releasing it to them entirely.
~ Notice and own the amount of emotional energy that remains on the original flower.
Clearing Your Emotional Energy
The emotional energy on your flower is there for release. You’re evolving your tendency to repress that emotion, releasing the backlog and freeing up your space.
Imagine creating a hollow stem on your flower to siphon the energy into the Earth for recycling.
Notice how your body shifts, expands, opens up space for you to be Who You Are.
Validate your ability to let go and to connect deeply to your autonomous, authentic self.
What beautiful work to own what’s yours, surrender what’s not and to freely, willingly let go, in the spirit and interests of evolution and healing.
“You have to be able to center yourself, to let all of your emotions go. Don’t ever forget that you play with your soul as well as your body.” —Kareem Abdul-Jabbar
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