Question: I have a problem. I believe eating animals is immoral. When invited to dine with friends who eat meat, even though I’m not obligated to do so, should I accept their choice, or am I morally bound to chastise them?
Rabbi Rami: I suggest you chastise them, and do so loudly, self-righteously, and unceasingly. Make your friends so uncomfortable that they will never invite you to dine with them again which, thankfully, will solve your problem. And theirs.
I can’t believe I’m admitting this to you, but I’m in love with my priest, and obsess about him breaking his vow of celibacy, leaving the Church, and marrying me. Should I change parishes and never see him again?
I recommend four things before changing parishes. First, be grateful for the feeling: Some people never experience love—how wonderful that you do! Second, share your feelings with him. He may feel the same about you, and even if he doesn’t, talking with him may help you make peace with your feelings. Third, your love for this father may be a misdirected love for his Father; see if your priest can help you use your love of him to d …
Rabbi Rami Shapiro is an award-winning author, essayist, poet, and teacher. In the print version of our magazine, he has an advice column, “Roadside Assistance for the Spiritual Traveler,” addressing reader questions pertaining to religion, spirituality, faith, family, God, social issues, and more. His latest book is Surrendered—The Sacred Art. Rabbi Rami hosts our podcast, “Essential Conversations.”