On Self-Care and Not Living a Frantic Life

On Self-Care and Not Living a Frantic Life

Photo Credit: TongRo Images/Thinkstock

Recently, I read this excellent piece by author Shauna Niequist that speaks to something I’ve been feeling but haven’t been able to articulate or maybe really pinpoint: She’s done with the hustle. She’s done with feeling frantic.

She writes:

"You know what I’m talking about: when your mind has to work seven steps ahead instead of just being where you are, because this deadline’s coming, and the laundry has to get done before that trip, because you can’t forget to pack snowpants for school, and you need to beg for more time on this project. Again.
Kindergarten drop-off is at noon, and that gives me just enough time to squeeze in this meeting and pick up the dry-cleaning and talk through those five pressing things with my editor. While I’m on the phone I prep vegetables for dinner, and if Mac takes a good nap, I can get packed for the next trip, as long as the laundry is dry.
And on and on and on, times seven years."

That’s why Niequist has adopted what she calls “a ruthless anti-frantic policy.” Before she says yes to something, she’s asking herself this valuable question: “will saying yes to this require me to live in a frantic way?”

Of course, it doesn’t matter what your life looks like. That is, you don’t have to be an author or a parent or a regular traveler like Niequist. You might work from home. You might commute hours into the city for work. You might work across the street. You might have kids. You might have grandkids. You might have neither. You might have a partner. You might be single. You might live in a teeny tiny town. You might live in a big, bustling city.

Whatever your specifics, you, too, might be tired. Oh-so tired. A weariness you wear every day. A weariness that sticks to your skin like honey.

Is that because your life is frantic? Does it feel frantic? Are you tired of all the hustle and bustle? Would you like to slow down? What can you stop doing? Where can you stop holding on so tightly? Where can you ask for help?

I think asking ourselves these questions regularly is a powerful way to check in with ourselves. It’s a powerful start to taking good care of ourselves. Because once we can understand what we’re needing, what we’re missing, how we’re feeling, what’s worrying us, we can make important changes.

We can create beautiful lives. Lives filled with meaning and wonder and the things we need.

This article first published on PsychCentral. To view the original post, click here.

Join Us on the Journey

Sign Up

Enjoying this content?

Get this article and many more delivered straight to your inbox weekly.